Chapter 7 – God’s Definition of Love – The Emotion

This is the first of several chapters that will look at the chasm between God’s definition of love and our erroneous earthly views, an understanding that is crucial to our development in love.

This chapter took a lot longer for me to write compared to the previous ones. For a few months, I had great difficulty clarifying my thoughts when I would sit down to write. It is a kind of interference I am familiar with, having had this occur at particular times when attempting to participate in, speak about or write about Divine Truth. I believe this occurs because I have not worked through emotions having to do with feeling bullied (oppression, judgement and control) and feeling my thoughts and views are unwanted, so I am vulnerable to spirits interfering with me in their attempts to prevent Divine Truth from being shared on this planet.

I am reminded of Jesus’s words telling us that working on our soul condition is always the most efficient way to achieve our desires. Otherwise, we are fighting the loving system that works with our soul to bring challenging emotions to our awareness while we are trying to brush them aside to get to the work we want to accomplish. I admit I have spent many hours wasting time pushing myself to write with the hope that I could produce something useful rather than letting myself feel a whole slew of emotions in the way. Eventually, I started working on these emotions, and things began to flow.

And there were other challenges. Now that I completed the introduction and background chapters and am diving into the heart of the Divine Truth material, I am faced with what feels like a monumental task of organizing this vast amount of information into logical segments. What I want to say doesn’t come in neat, chapter-sized packages. It comes in bursts of ideas, reviews of video material, middle of the night inspirations, prayer-time realizations, and messy emotional confusions. Distilling all that into themes and readable segments that make sense has been a real task—plenty of opportunities to feel overwhelmed.

I also have been giving more consideration to do I really want to write at this moment? I have a tendency to push myself into doing things for addictive reasons such as doing things I think I should do in order to appease issues of self worth, to feel heard, recognition, approval, specialness, etc. But I really am excited about Divine Truth and this book, and I enjoy the process of writing, especially when I give more respect to my honest desire in the moment and stop pushing.

Without further ado, we continue with:

The Truth

– A beginner’s perspective on what could be the
most important information a person will ever learn

If you are new to these chapters of The Truth, I feel it is important that you start at the beginning and read all the preceding chapters first:

The Truth – Introduction

Chapter 1 – The Basics

Chapter 2 – The Messengers

Chapter 3 – The Reality of Divine Truth

Chapter 4 – Introducing: The Human Soul

Chapter 5 – Our Multidimensional Universe – The Earth Experience

Chapter 6 – Our Multidimensional Universe – Beyond Earth

and now…

Chapter SEVEN

God’s Definition of Love – The Emotion

In previous chapters, I introduced the following truths: We human beings are souls, children of the Great Soul of the universe, God. All souls are designed to be emotional beings. It is through this emotional nature that we have the ability to interact with this love-based universe to grow beyond all suffering and into ever greater experiences of love, including a personal relationship with our Creator who desires to give us the ultimate in love, Divine Love. All this, so we may know the ever-expanding love and joy that is possible for each of us. But to receive all the loving gifts that are offered, we must understand and embrace God’s definition of love. 

In this chapter, we will look at the first essential truth of God’s view of love—that love is an emotion. This truth is vital to understanding God’s view of love, yet we Earthlings are highly suppressed and damaged in our emotional nature. Our lack of comprehension and experience of the emotion of love has caused us to seek love in a confusion of qualities, feelings, people, relationships, situations, and actions that we think are loving or beneficial but often are not. Much of what we consider love on Earth is actually avoidance of pain. We are trying to avoid feeling, whereas God knows that the only way to a joyful existence requires a well-developed feeling nature. Those two goals are completely at odds with each other, and that discrepancy is taking its toll on all of us. 

At one point, Jesus and Mary gave the Earthly view of love the moniker “evol” which is love spelled backwards and indicating “evil,” to make the point that our view of love is frequently so far removed from God’s viewpoint that the two might as well be considered opposites. In a universe flawlessly designed to champion love, we only have to look at the amount of suffering and degradation we experience on Earth to see that we are missing, ignoring and refusing some very essential truths about life and love. “Evol” has not worked, and as we become educated in and sensitive to God’s view of love, we will start to understand why. Only love—as God defines it—has the power to heal, transform and bring true joy; and it will, when we give it a chance. 

The key, because love is an emotion, is to develop our soul’s emotional nature. When we do that, we will discover how delightful, perfect, trustworthy, powerful, and transforming love really is. Our flawed version of love does not even compare. Adjusting to God’s view will have its challenges because we need to learn to view life from the soul perspective, the emotional perspective, the giving perspective, the truthful perspective, the transformational perspective. It is the view we will want to embrace, because, ultimately, God’s view is the only perspective that matters, the only perspective that will bring us happiness, well-being and joy as we evolve our soul in this love-based universe. The more we learn about God’s view of love, the more we will see that choosing to align with it is simple common sense. Our way does not work—God’s does. The gap between the two may be cavernously wide at the moment, but with a little education, courage, and effort, we can make the leap. 

God, of course, delights in helping us learn God’s view of love and is the best possible Source of all there is to know on this or any subject. We just get in the way of that connection and education because of the many false beliefs we hold about God and our aversion to the emotional sensitivity required to connect with this Being of pure emotion. But that goal—to establish a reliable love and truth-based connection directly with God—is what we want to aim towards. Untold benefits and delights will come our way as we continue to grow our relationship with God and expand our education in love. Getting to that point is going to be challenging; we are so fortunate that the messengers are offering their love, knowledge and experience to help us begin this journey with a solid foundation. 

One of the first steps in this adventure, one that is essential to understanding and experiencing God’s view of love—keeping in mind that love is an emotion— is to address this long-standing and ubiquitous resistance we have to emotions. We think of emotions as weak, childish, pointless, shameful, and sappy. We are dead wrong. Emotions in general and love in particular are the most powerful creative forces in our universe.  They are the key to, well, everything. Emotions are the key to a relationship with our infinitely loving, knowing, and powerful Creator. Emotions are responsible for needs as basic as food and shelter, health, and loving relationships (with our soulmate as well as others). Emotions determine our ability to secure satisfying and fulfilling work, wellbeing, a safe and beautiful living environment, time to enjoy ourselves, creativity, joy, energy, etc. Emotional development in love causes us to naturally be more patient, kind, loving, generous, aware, logical, intelligent, and able to learn. Even knowledge, intelligence, and cognitive abilities depend on the emotions within the soul. In “Chapter 4—The Human Soul” I mention that emotional development is also responsible for our development of what we might consider super-power abilitieslike extra-sensory perception (ESP), healing, moving objects, levitating, translocating, etc. Like I said, basically, everything related to our abilities, well-being and happiness have to do with emotions, the emotion of love in particular.

On Earth, we often think of love as an action or an idea rather than an emotion. But even if we concede that love has something to do with emotions, we still find it hard to describe; it seems like a feeling that just is between two people, a connection that we don’t really understand, a connection that is implicit in some situations, like in families, or a bond that develops due to mutual affinity or similarities between people. We may feel a strong attraction or desire to be with a person we believe that we love, but, as I will explain, connections and feelings can be generated by emotions far removed from the actual emotion of love. 

In contrast to our nebulous understandings of love, God’s perspective is very precise. What matters is the specific and pure emotion of love that is generated, felt, shared, received and grown within the soul. Love is such an exact emotional energy that it has its own mathematical signature that can be measured. Love without the actual, mathematically measurable emotion of love is not love. Just because we feel an emotion that we believe is love, does not mean that it is. We humans are very good at believing certain feelings, relationships and situations contain love, when, from God’s perspective, they do not. We may feel delicious, magnetic, all-consuming feelings for another person, for example, that can be entirely generated by error-based addictions. This insensitivity to the difference between the real thing and “evol” is wreaking havoc on our lives. And we won’t know the difference until we go through the process of sensitizing our soul to and familiarizing ourselves with the vast array of human emotions that either keep us imprisoned or propel us on the path of love.

While the emotion of love is very specific, our development in the emotion of love will vary among all the different topics or circumstances we experience. For example, our emotions about total honesty and openness may be perfectly aligned with God’s perspective of what is loving, but when it comes to self-worth, we may have many errors in our soul that cause us to be very unloving to ourselves. We can be either in harmony or varying degrees of disharmony with God’s view of love on any subject. We can have the pure emotion of love in our soul in some areas while still having error in other areas.

It may be helpful to think of the emotion of love as a musical note. Each note in the musical scale would represent a different topic of love, like love of truth, love of serving, love of raising children, love of your soulmate, love of creating, love of communication, etc. Within each subject, there is a perfect resonance on that subject with how God’s views it. Let’s say the emotion of love of truth is the note “A” played at 440 vibrations/second [Hertz (Hz)][1], so that when the note is perfectly in tune, when it precisely matches the mathematical frequency of that note, that is the emotion equivalent to God’s view of love on that subject. Other frequencies played when attempting to play “A” that are not accurate (whether they are obviously discordant or that seem ok to our untrained ear) all result from damaged emotions that distract from the purity and the joy that comes with perfect alignment. Pure notes of love can be played on an endless variety of instruments, each with its own unique quality and resonance. We are those instruments. The love notes can also be played very softly or with great power. But among all that variation, it is the precise tonal frequency that brings the love. While musicians on Earth can and do make great music by almosthitting the precise frequencies of the notes, when it comes to love, pure blissful harmony will only come from resonating perfectly with God’s view of love. We are either perfectly aligned with the emotional mathematical signature of God’s definition of love or we are not. Currently, our instruments of human souls are poorly tuned and don’t have much resonance or power, but, like musicians, we can become proficient at tuning and playing our instrument until we consistently and automatically achieve what we are aiming for. When we are at one with God, we are in perfect harmony with love and that is when perfection comes without effort. From that point on, with God’s help, we have an infinite capacity to expand our soul-instruments to achieve qualities of expression that are currently beyond our imagination. And when we do, we are going to create an orchestra of unimaginable harmony, beauty, power, healing, creativity and love.

Many, if not most, people have had the wonderful experience of being emotionally moved by certain kinds of music. It somehow reaches past our resistance to emotions, touches and expands our soul, and beings tears to our eyes. That state of expansion and openness, which may make us feel vulnerable at first, is a glimps of our natural state of being. If we can learn to not only allow and accept this natural state of emotionality, but actually value emotions, appreciate them, relish them, become passionate about feeling them (responsibly of course), we will find this journey towards love much easier and more of the fascinating adventure of discovery it really is.

This quality of becoming sincere and passionate about feeling one’s emotions is a quality Jesus (in this life) calls humility. This is not the definition of humility most of us are familiar with, which is more along the lines of “to be humble; a modest view of one’s own importance,”[2] but in order to be open to receiving love and truth from God, open to taking guidance from God, and open to desiring to embrace God’s view of love, being humble and having a modest view of one’s own importance are essential to developing the humility of desiring to responsibly feel all emotions. When we are humble, we are less arrogant, more open to God’s authority and guidance, and less likely to desire to blame others (in our attempt to not feel our emotions), issues that greatly hinder our development.

With respect to becoming sensitive to and desiring to feel emotions, humility is as important to the development of the soul as being able to perceive music is to a musician. Both, though potentials in all of us, take practice and effort to refine. No one is inherently “tone-deaf” either musically or when it comes to feeling emotions of the soul. Any form of deafness, whether it is congenital physical deafness or emotional insensitivity, is an indication of underlying emotional damage either learned or passed down generationally that will heal as we heal our soul. We are all capable of being the fully aware and emotional beings we are designed to be. When we first open to feeling emotions, we may have trepidation as we start to feel our soul and the emotions it contains, but as we grow in love we will develop a passion for feeling our emotions, especially if we include God in the process and start to receive God’s Divine Love. Then we will know without doubt that developing our soul’s sensitivity to emotions is well worth the effort. 

Because God’s view of love and God’s laws of love are based on emotions within the soul rather than just the resulting actions, the corrective and supportive laws are enacted by our sinful or loving intentions, not just the actions. On Earth, when it comes to sin, we typically believe that we can think or feel whatever we want to as long as we act respectably. In God’s view, we do not get away with that belief; our beliefs, thoughts and intentions matter greatly. Sure, if we have murderous thoughts but don’t act on them, that is much better and the corrective laws are less severe than if we did act on them, but the laws are activated the moment a desire or intention is born. In the case of loving thoughts and actions, this focus on intentions means that we get credit for our loving intentions even if we are unable carry them out. For example, let’s say we have an elderly neighbor who we know cannot get around easily, and we feel a desire to help them by including them when we go grocery shopping. But when we invite them, we find out that their son has just recently moved close by and is taking care of that need for them. There may be other ways we can help that person or other people who we may like to help, but our soul will benefit from our original loving desire even though our service was not needed. How cool is that? God’s perfect justice is so wonderful. As we become more sensitive in our soul and are able to tune-in to the helpful cues offered by the interaction of the laws with our soul, we will know instantly if an idea is aligned with God’s view of love or not. 

One thing we need to know about the process of becoming emotionally sensitive, is that a person cannot develop soul sensitivity by trying to be selective with emotions. You will not heal your soul or progress in love if you decide to limit your emotions to only loving, happy, and peaceful emotions and ignore or refuse all the painful, frightening, and angry ones. The soul does not work that way. The soul can only grow in love by responsibly allowing all emotions to flow. How to do this will be explained. 

For many of us, our resistance to loving emotions is just as strong as our resistance to unloving ones. We have been taught that showing loving emotions is a weakness, something to be avoided, because it makes us feel vulnerable, exposed, and ashamed. But as we gain experience with the reality of our emotional nature, we will see that the flow of loving emotions is a beautiful, natural response. Our heart (soul) softens, opens, expands, and energizes; our eyes weep; our lungs pull in a deeper breath; we cry. Sometimes, when we really surrender to love, as the love expands our soul, we can’t even stop the tears from flowing, nor would we want to because this is how we heal and grow the love in our souls. Love is always an emotional experience.

In contrast to the emotional reality of love, our Earthly view of love is often missing the emotion of love entirely. We talk about loving someone regardless of the real emotion we feel about them; we say, “I love you,” but the damaged emotions in our soul in that moment may be that we are actually angry at or resentful of the person. The truth from God’s perspective is that only one of these emotions can be true in a given moment, either the love or the anger, for example, but not both. There is a principle of love called preclusion [3] that asserts that love and error cannot coexist in the same place (the same soul) at the same time on the same subject. You are simply not loving someone in the same moment that you harbor anger, frustration, resentment, or any other unloving emotion towards them. It is not possible. The emotion that is real in that moment is always the emotion that is present within the soul, not what the person thinks is true or professes. This becomes even trickier, because we are often completely fooled about what emotions are actually in our soul due to our highly distorted concepts of love, our disconnection from emotions in general, and the desire to present a façade to the world. Sadly, most of us on Earth have many unloving emotions running our souls that we remain unaware of that block the flow of love in our lives. 

And to make matters worse, the unloving emotions in our souls that we are often unaware of are far more damaging to all involved that we currently realize. Some emotions like anger, resentment, frustration, threat, condescension, and judgement are so commonplace that we think they are an inevitable part of life. They are not. Due to our insensitivity to emotions, we don’t recognize the violence involved in these everyday emotions. From God’s perspective, any intention of force, threat or belittlement used to selfishly pressure or control another soul to behave against its will is an attack on that soul. We will talk more about control issues when we look at Free Will in chapter 9, but I raise the issue of control emotions here because it is an example of how insensitive we are to the reality of our disharmony with God’s view of love. We barely understand the full destructive force of physical violence, but when it comes to emotional violence—which is actually the greater part of the damage done in physical violence—we prefer to remain ignorant. Too much of society’s norms are at stake for us to consider how damaging emotions of control are on the soul. 

Not only do we use the more obvious controlling emotions like anger, condescension, ridicule, judgement, threat and violence to bully people into doing what we want, we are also masters at manipulation, lies, pandering, coddling, numbing out, dismissing, rejecting, compliance, being “nice,” sexual projections, and facades. We engage all these methods in order to maintain our comfort zones which means avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are immensely creative in our attempts to avoid emotions. These control methods become our addictions. We will talk a great deal about emotional addictions later because undoing them becomes a big part of our soul’s healing. Every kind of addiction you can imagine is caused by our desire to avoid emotions. 

If we just changed this one thing, the desire to avoid emotions, we would open ourselves to an accurate and loving relationship with our own soul, the souls of others and with The Great Oversoul, God. We would step into being the emotional selves we were designed to be and find ourselves well on our way to not only understanding and embracing God’s view of love, but also enjoying all the amazing benefits that come with having a loving soul and a relationship with God.

Resources for “God’s Definition of Love—The Emotion”:

20110521 Human Relationships – The World’s Definition Of Love S1             https://youtu.be/95YZ64EzJMo

20110910 Human Relationships – The World’s Definition Of Love S2P1         https://youtu.be/v99MG8zzFsI

20110910 Human Relationships – The World’s Definition Of Love S2P2         https://youtu.be/TK9L6FACoaE

20110924 Human Relationships – The World’s Definition Of Love S3P1         https://youtu.be/FTI2nGtMyVg

20110924 Human Relationships – The World’s Definition Of Love S3P2         https://youtu.be/IttYLOFZ6hs

If you haven’t watched the following series I suggested as resources for “Chapter 4 — The Human Soul,” I recommend you have a look now:

20140208 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S1P1          https://youtu.be/i3Jz7Dj1euQ?t=281

20140208 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S1P2          https://youtu.be/syb9Zgi7HAU

20140209 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S2P1          https://youtu.be/it5UhCeuBeU

20140209 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S2P2          https://youtu.be/aDE46wBqCHg

20140524 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S3P1          https://youtu.be/dus9gQXbVYQ

20140524 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S3P2          https://youtu.be/JSiN531zzBQ

20140525 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S4P1          https://youtu.be/MvaEG7iUYmw

20140525 Relationship With God – Understanding Your Emotional Self S4P2          https://youtu.be/toEhebif02g

Footnote references: 

1.       Musical pitches (notes) are determined by their frequency, which is measured in vibrations per second, or Hertz (Hz)

2.       Definition of humility from New Oxford American Dictionary

3.       What is Preclusion?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7FCAXQat64

         Discussion and questions about “Preclusion
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zal5tMe6eXo